Japan · Life

“I saw you before anything else in that room.”

The title quote is from Amazon’s “Z: The Beginning of Everything” which if you’re not watching, you should be.

Motoki told me that last year he got his wife flowers for Valentine’s Day.  This shouldn’t seem odd except in Japan Valentine’s Day means the girl does something for her love (usually makes him chocolates).  A month later in March is White Day where the man reciprocates the woman’s present two or threefold.  Personally, I don’t really like White Day.  It’s just another day to (literally) buy in to.  Because Motoki’s wife not at all Westernized, she didn’t appreciate his gesture.  Mamoru did the same thing for me last Valentine’s Day and I was over the moon.  In fact, it was the last time he surprised me or did anything romantic for me.  This week I left him with the task of planning our not real anniversary anniversary, and instead of being spontaneous or romantic, he keeps asking me all kinds of questions.  He asked me where I wanted to eat dinner and if I wanted to go skiing.  So far I’m not prepared for any grand romantic gesture.

But I need one.  I might publicly scoff at romantic gestures, but when I see stuff like that in movies or even something like what F. Scott says to Zelda above I get all melty inside.  This is making a horrible generalization so feel free to correct me if I’m wrong, but I think many Japanese men don’t know how to be romantic.  Mamoru used to be better at it.  One time he brought me a bag full of soups, juice, and fruit when I was sick.  He used to surprise me with flowers all the time.  Now not much of that kind of stuff happens anymore.  As I said before it’s been about a year since he surprised me with anything romantic.  There’s not really any use in telling him this.  He’s always asked me what I wanted for presents ever since he gave me some earrings when we first started dating, and I didn’t like them very much (I never said that, but I think my face betrayed me).  I think he’s been afraid to surprise me with any gifts since then.

There’s not really much point to this blog.  Just that I love romance and I don’t get much of it.

In other news, I picked up a two-day job.  I’m looking forward to the almost 40000円 for that.  I have another interview on Monday which consists of a Japanese test that I hope I don’t bomb, and I finally received an email from Company K about interviewing with them.  I applied for two more jobs today (one sounds just about awful), so I keep on keeping on.  I’m doing the best I can and as Naru kindly reminded me, she went through the same thing not too long ago.  Moving.  Job hunting.  No friends.  Temp jobs.  She’s got a great job now and doing stuff with friends.  She’s my inspiration these days, and for her she said the process took six months which means I’ve got four months to go.  I’ll keep on plugging away at it and hopefully my tenacity will pay off.

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