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More on the お父さん saga…

This week.  Ugh.  On Tuesday, Mamoru’s brother called him with more bad news.  His wife left and went to stay with her mother.  She’s thinking about divorcing Mamoru’s brother.  The reason?  お父さん is thinking of marrying a Korean woman and brother’s wife and her mother hate Koreans so much, they are thinking of dissolving a marriage over it.  If this isn’t the most ridiculous thing in the world, I don’t know what is.  My suspicion is that brother’s wife (or her mother) had designs on divorce (and half of brother’s assets) before this whole thing started.  I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that someone hates a group of people so much that they’d divorce their husband over it.  But I guess there are nutty people out there like that.  I’ve always liked brother’s wife and found her pleasant and friendly.  However, due to this situation, her esteem has fallen tremendously in my eyes.

After brother called Mamoru, we met with お父さん, had dinner and talked about the situation.  Mamoru explained that if お父さん married this Korean woman, then brother’s marriage would be over.  So incredibly selfish.  Also, Mamrou tried to encourage お父さん to write a will.  In Japan if someone dies, their money and assets are split between his or her children, his wife (and in the case of marriage any of the wife’s children from a previous marriage).  Because no one knows much about this Korean woman, a will would insure that what お父さん has goes only to his two children.  I don’t know this Korean woman, so I’m trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.  She could honestly love お父さん or she could only be after his assets.  We’re under the suspicion that she lied about her age to お父さん because her Facebook says she’s in her late 40s when she told お父さん she was in her mid 60s.  She looks much younger than mid 60s.  She could have had plastic surgery, and it’s not terribly uncommon for people to lie about their age.  Anyway, I’m trying not to prejudge her, but these things raise some red flags.

So we had dinner and Mamoru and お父さん spoke pretty much the entire time.  I was basically only there for support.  In the end お父さん agreed not to marry this woman, not to sell the house, and to probably keep on working until he dies.  Even though Mamoru talked to him about the will, he’s not done anything about that yet.  Today Mamoru spoke to his brother.  Brother’s wife is still with her mother, but they will meet お父さん tonight to talk about everything.  Perhaps everything will be resolved.  Who knows?  This whole thing has gotten quite out of control and ridiculous and I’m about ready for it to be resolved.  Sigh.

3 thoughts on “More on the お父さん saga…

  1. This sounds like a soap opera. Who leaves their husband because they don’t like who someone else is marrying? What?!?! Sounds like お父さん should get a prenup along with a will before marriage. Ah, family. 🙂


  2. That sounds pretty tough. I hope things work out, but what a drama headache for everyone. You’re right about that divorce. The Korean wife situation is probably just an excuse for what she already plans to do eventually.


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