This is continuing on from the Red Flags series.
However, it’s not in and of itself a red flag. It’s just me and my noisy anxious brain plagued by this situation. Demande is my friend and I feel like I have to help him discover the truth here, but because of how he’s been in the past, my friendship with Demande (I feel) constantly teeters on a precipice, and I don’t want to send it crashing into the void below. I feel like if I push too hard or accuse his girlfriend of lying that will hurt my (so newly recovered) friendship with him, and I don’t want to do that. I’ve been trying to plant seeds little by little that will push him to take her to the doctor here, but time is running out. I’m afraid she’s clearly an expert at getting Demande to do what she wants and that she can keep him away from the doctor for the remaining 9 days she’s here.
Please help me! What more can I say to get him to take her to the doctor? Some of you may say I should mind my own business here, but I can sit blindly by with the belief that she’s taking advantage of my friend for personal gain. This whole situation is causing me mad anxiety, and I can’t stop thinking about it. I thought about calling her behavior (of not wanting to see a doctor) odd, but again I don’t want to push him away from me. What would you do? What else can I do? Please advise!